We wait for readiness like it's a bus. But maybe readiness is something we build, not something that arrives.
In this reflection we question the wait for perfect readiness. Get your finances sorted. Heal your attachment wounds. Become your best self first.
Then you will be ready for love, for risk, for change.
This sounds reasonable. It is also a trap.
People who believe abilities are fixed tend to avoid challenges. They wait until they feel competent.
People who understand that competence develops through doing start before they feel ready.
No one is expected to be fully ready alone. Relationships fill in gaps. Community fills in gaps. The self develops by showing up, not by preparing in private.
You do not understand something fully until you have lived it. Some things only become clear in motion.
There is also the question of who gets to wait. For some, circumstances do not allow endless preparation. They build the plane while flying because there is no runway.
Readiness becomes privilege when the alternative is not waiting but surviving.
Waiting for readiness assumes readiness is stable. That once achieved, it stays.
But the ground keeps shifting. The person who feels ready today might feel unprepared tomorrow.
The myth is that somewhere in the future, there is a version of you who will have it together. Who will finally be ready.
But that future self does not exist yet. The only person who can begin is the one who is here now.
Readiness is not a feeling. It is a decision.
You do not become ready and then begin. You begin, and readiness builds along the way.
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